Recycle or Just Buy a New One

Before I start, I want to thank my first response to my blog, Chanel. You made me feel like my hard work is gonna pay off. Thanx and please keep reading!!!!!

On to the blog:

I've noticed over the years, I often recycle. Not save Earth recycle but I recycle boyfriends. I hardly date new people. For example, Forbidden is BD's childhood friend and I've known him since 9th grade. BF was my bestfriend for 2 years. I dated X-Fiance for a minute, lose contact, then I recycled him.

Now don't get me wrong, I don't think recycling is bad. I just think there are pros and cons to Recycling and just simply "buying a new one".

Recycling: Pros
1) A definite pro to recycling is that you already know this person. When I recycled BF, I already knew everything about him. His likes, his dislikes, his aspirations, his goals, ect. There was an already established trust between us too. There is also already an established timeline. No awkward "what do I where on our first date?" or "I hope she likes this restaurant" moments. And you'll always have things to talk about.

2) If you met or he talked about any of the ex's then you have a complete "What Not To Do Guide". BF had a really bad break up with his bitch of an ex (we'll just call her Bitch) and he told me all about it. So when it came my turn (which never actually happened), I had already had it in my head, I was going to be the complete polar opposite of her.

Recycling: Cons

1) You may know way to much about a person. Somethings are better left in the dark. When I recycled Forbidden, I already knew who he had slept with (which made for an awkward meeting when I spoke to her again) and I knew he still had deep feelings for his ugly X girlfriend (my opinion is, of course, bias). I wished I didn't know that because I constantly dwelled on the fact that she was, somehow in some way, better than me.

2) Pray for a amicable break up. If its not one not only are you losing a lover, your losing a friend. Case in point: BF and I. We went from talking and hanging out all the time, to not even being on a "Hi and Bye" bases.

Just Buy A New One: Pros

1) It can fun getting to know a new person. Being on a whirlwind romance is one of the best feeling in the world. When getting to know a new person, you may find out about things you never knew. Like this guy I dated briefly (we'll call him "K"), introduced me to Moroccan food and I still love it to this day. And he showed me some kinky stuff I didn't know about either. He he he he

2) He's trying to impress you. This can only result in one thing: GIFTS!!! Lol, I'm kidding. But when you first begin to date, he is a gentleman. He opens doors, offers to take you places, you know all the good stuff. And being wined and dined is great, if its only just to hook you. When I was dating this guy "Tone", he was a sweety pie. We hung out constantly, he bought me gifts, paid for dinner, ect. I had fun for the first couple months.

Just Buy A New One: Cons

1)The biggest con would be you don't know this person from the man on the moon. You could be dating a serial killer and not know it. The last thing I need, is to be dating a pedophile who is more interested in my little boy than me. Unless you like Dr. Cal Lightman from Lie to Me (I love that show), its hard to really read a person you just met. I dated a guy named "Frank" while I was in high school. He was a lot older than me (I was being a hot ass) but he was a cool guy and a beast in the sack (except he sucked my nipples to hard. Don't you hate that?).

So I go over a friend's house one day and see him sitting on the couch with a very beautiful woman. Imagine my shock when she introduced her as his wife. Especially since I had skipped school a week ago to be with him in a motel room on Jefferson (a street in Detroit). Needless to say, we didn't talk anymore.

What are some more pro/cons? Do you or have you ever recycle(d)? Tell us some of your Recycling stories. Email me @ mizzhopelessromantic@gmail.com